How to Successfully Choose a Long Term Partner

Don and Martha Rosenthal

by Don Rosenthal

It happens frequently for one in search of a lifetime partner that he or she meets someone, they click, and fall rapidly in love. In a short time they are both high on the delicious emotions of the early romantic love. They may also experience an intensified high from the quality and newness of their sex. These highs are so compelling that they lead both partners swiftly to the conclusion that they have met their lifetime mate. With such intense love and connection, how could the union be anything but a lifetime of bliss together?

The fact that such a disturbingly high percentage of relationships—well over the majority— end up either in splitting, living in constant conflict, or going dead, suggests that the predicted bliss emerging from such beginnings is almost always greatly misleading. In fact, how high the high moments are at the early stage is a very poor predictor of long term relational success. For someone seriously seeking a lifetime partner it would be wise to abandon this misleading criterion and to look for another one that would more accurately predict the likely success of the long term endeavor.

Are we able to identify one? The answer is “yes.” Before the end we will suggest what that quality in a partner might be; but first we lay some groundwork.


Resentment: the Plaque in the Arteries

From decades of observing couples in all stages of relationship in our workshops and counselling, Martha (my wife of 46 years) and I are clear that the chief ingredient of most failed relationships is resentment. When not properly dealt with, resentment gains ground ceaselessly, choking off the flow of good will and love. This plaque in the arteries of relationship is invariably mutual, since resentment expressed by one party entails the diminishing of love, thereby triggering resentment in the other. As it bounces back and forth between the partners the resentment grows. Here is the central factor in the darkening of feelings and the lessening of love.

If resentment can be caught early and dealt with, before it has the chance to grow like a tumor, unchecked and dangerous, a relationship stands a far greater chance of success. It makes sense, therefore, to uncover the favorite breeding grounds of resentment as a crucial place to interrupt—before a destructive pattern is created.

We all want a relationship where we can communicate our feelings if we are upset by our partner’s behavior, and be understood by them. We have observed much resentment originating when such communication is attempted. The partner who is told by their mate, “I was hurt by what you said to me,” or “I was angry at what you did yesterday,” is likely to experience this as a threat. Out of their fear the confronted partner often becomes defensive, which invariably means that they are in no position to hear the upset one. The outcome is increased resentment.

Defenses Take Many Forms

Defensiveness can take many forms. A most common one is explaining oneself, or self-justification: “I had good reason to do what I did, and I didn’t mean to hurt you….” Another is denial: “I didn’t do what you said.” Another is attack: “What, you accuse me? You do it too, even worse!” Another is accusing the other of overreacting. Other forms of defense may include withdrawal, emotional meltdown, or inappropriate sarcasm or humor.

What they all have in common is simple: in being defensive one is in a state incapable of understanding their partner’s reason for being upset. The one who is trying to be understood about something that genuinely troubles them, is guaranteed in the presence of defensiveness to be frustrated in their desire, because the defensive partner will invariably tune out the other’s reality.

Here lies perhaps the major source of resentment. As a couple with human flaws, my partner and I are bound to do things regularly that don’t feel good to the other. There needs to be a way of conveying this effectively and of being heard. Without this capacity the most unfortunate message is transmitted: “if I behave in ways that bother you, I don’t care”. How can an intimacy flourish in such an environment? Yet such is precisely the situation in a disturbingly high number of relationships.

The reader might ask him or herself, how do I respond when my partner tells me they are upset with my behavior? Do I perhaps get defensive? If so, can I see that my partner may not feel that I am interested in hearing their truth?

In order for them to feel understood, what do they actually need from me? It can’t be that I always agree with their perspective on things, their story, because that is simply unrealistic and impossible. And yet, when they tell me their feelings I can’t argue with them, because it feels as if I am being defensive, and they won’t be heard. What they realistically have a right to ask for is that I be more interested in understanding their reality than in being right. That I will be able to put myself in their place and understand them. I need to show them that their feelings makes sense. In short, my task is to validate their feeling.

What is Validation?

To validate is to show the other that under these circumstances their feelings make sense to me. They are not crazy or inappropriate. And I can understand the connection between my actions and their feelings. It by no means requires that I agree with their assessment of the situation. In fact, it is possible to validate even when I strongly disagree. But it does require that I have the capacity and the willingness to let go temporarily of my personal perspective on the matter. Perhaps I may search my memory bank for an experience similar to the one I am trying to validate. It is an art to be able to put myself in their place and show them convincingly that their feelings make sense to me. In return for this gift I may receive a fresh perspective on some of my unconscious behavior patterns that might well deserve a closer look.

An example may clarify our meaning. Lets say my car was being fixed, I borrowed my partner’s car to go shopping, and it took longer than I had thought. I had an appointment on the phone when I returned home. In order to make that appointment on time I had to rush home. This meant I didn’t have time to put gas in the car, which sorely needed it. My partner discovered the gas indicator almost on empty when I returned the car, and got angry with me for my carelessness in not handling the gas myself.

Most of us, in the face of our partner’s upset, feel a strong impulse to defend ourselves, sounding something like this: “Look, I had a really important conference call at 3:00 and I simply didn’t have the time to get gas. You’re being unfairly upset at something I couldn’t help!” Or, “Okay, okay, so I’m not perfect! Don’t you ever make mistakes, especially when you’re pressed for time? Give me a break and stop coming on like you’re so perfect!” Or, “Why is it that you’re always finding fault with every little thing that I do? I can’t do a thing without you blaming me and getting upset over practically nothing!” You can imagine how unsatisfied our partner feels. In fact, this may well be the start of another cycle of resentment.

What did they actually want from me? For their upset feelings they were awaiting a validation, which might sound like this: “I can see why you are angry. The one time I borrow your car I return it with the gas very low, which means you have to handle one more thing the next time you go out, and maybe even worry about making it to a gas station. You always make sure the car has enough gas when you bring it home, and I can see why you would expect me to have the courtesy to do the same when I borrow your car. My failure to do that must have felt really disrespectful. I can understand your upset.” To receive such a validation usually softens the feelings and even helps them to release. But, alas, most validation does not arise very easily or naturally.

The Value of Validation

Couples who have learned a thing or two about the art of intimacy understand that to validate is to bypass a great deal of potential trouble. Ideally, if validation does not arise naturally during the upset, one can ask for it. Although it takes a while to learn well, the skill is greatly worth having. Whoever has learned how can offer it when requested. In fact, it makes sense on several levels for a couple to have an agreement that validations will be given upon request. Not wanting to give one is no longer an acceptable excuse. This ups the ante for relational integrity, as well as guarantees that one who really desires validation can count on receiving it.

One may find that the capacity to validate on request is not a luxury, but an indispensable component for maintaining a thriving intimacy. It may even become difficult to imagine how an intimacy could possibly succeed with a partner who, when told about my difficult feelings, is unable to show me some understanding, due to being defensive, about why I am upset. Without the capacity to validate on request, negative feelings are likely to build swiftly until they poison a relationship, and likely render it unpleasant to participate in or to behold. Imagine the difference when one lives in a relationship where he or she knows beyond doubt that they can always be heard and understood if they request it, due to the partner being non-defensive, no matter how difficult or loaded a situation is. The need to hold onto resentment withers; the trust level flowers.

The Quality Needed to Maximize Success

We can now return to the question of what quality in a potential mate will successfully predict the greatest likelihood of a thriving intimacy. I believe it is the willingness and the capacity to learn how to validate.

Were I considering someone as a potential partner I would first make sure they understand how important the proper handling of conflict is to the success of a relationship. Then, I would make sure they understand the importance of validation replacing defensiveness, and had learned or were willing to learn how to validate. Finally, I would want to try it out with them to make sure they have the capacity to validate effectively. The best tools are now in place to address any difficult situation, and a thriving intimacy awaits.

Author: Don Rosenthal, Relationship Counselor

Website: www.awakeningtogether.com

Email: couples@sover.net

Don shares more of his wisdom in a course at IMHU, “7 Essentials for Creating Thriving Relationships”.  Click here for more information.

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The State of Mental Health in America

 

 

Mental Health Facts, Stats, and Data: Key Findings (2016)

  • 1 in 5 Adults have a mental health condition.That’s over 40 million Americans; more than the populations of New York and Florida combined.
  • Youth mental health is worseningRates of youth depression increased from 8.5% in 2011 to 11.1% in 2014. Even with severe depression, 80% of youth are left with no or insufficient treatment
  • More Americans have access to servicesAccess to insurance and treatment increased, as healthcare reform has reduced the rates of uninsured adults. 19% of adults remain uninsured in states that did not expand Medicaid. 13% of adults remain uninsured in states that did expand Medicaid.
  • But most Americans still lack access to care. 56% of American adults with a mental illness did not receive treatment. Even in Vermont, the state with the best access, 43% of adults with a mental illness did not receive treatment.
  • There is a serious mental health workforce shortage. In states with the lowest workforce, there’s only 1 mental health professional per 1,000 individuals. This includes psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, counselors, and psychiatric nurses combined.
  • Less access to care means more incarceration. Arkansas, Mississippi, and Alabama had the least access to care and highest rates of imprisonment. There are over 57,000 people with mental health conditions in prison and jail in those states alone. That’s enough to fill Madison Square Garden three times.

Mental Health in America 2017 [links]

 In the above links you will find a Collection of Data across all 50 states and the District of Columbia answering the following questions:

  • How many adults and youth have mental health issues?
  • How many adults and youth have substance use issues?
  • How many adults and youth have access to insurance?
  • How many adults and youth have access to adequate insurance?
  • How many adults and youth have access to mental health care?
  • Which states have higher barriers to accessing mental health care?

 Our Goal [at Mental Health America]:

  • To provide a snapshot of mental health status among youth and adults for policy and program planning, analysis, and evaluation;
  • To track changes in prevalence of mental health issues and access to mental health care;
  • To understand how changes in national data reflect the impact of legislation and policies; and.
  • To increase dialogue and improve outcomes for individuals and families with mental health needs

 Why Gather this Information?

  • Using national survey data allows us to measure a community’s mental health needs, access to care, and outcomes regardless of the differences between the states and their varied mental health policies.
  • Rankings explore which states are more effective at addressing issues related to mental health and substance use.
  • Analysis may reveal similarities and differences among states in order to begin assessing how federal and state mental health policies result in more or less access to care.

 The article was taken from Mental Health America‘s website:

http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/issues/state-mental-health-america?platform=hootsuite

Mental Health America is committed to promoting mental health as a critical part of overall wellness. They advocate for prevention services for all, early identification and intervention for those at risk, integrated services, care and treatment for those who need it, and recovery as the goal.

They believe that gathering and providing up-to-date data and information about disparities faced by individuals with mental health problems is a tool for change.

 

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What’s the Harm in Taking an Antidepressant?

Theatre Faces

By Kelly Brogan, MD, ABIHM

We know that all drugs have side effects. That’s just part of the deal right? But is it really possible that an antidepressant can cause a sane person to act like a cold-blooded criminal?

I imagined my audience would be wondering as much as I arrived to an unseasonably chilly day at King’s College in London. I was there to share what I have learned about the medications that I so dutifully and faithfully prescribed during the early part of my career, and also about the deep potential for healing depression in simple, safe ways, according to the latest science.

The day before my flight, I had received an email from a man who I would choose to invite on stage with me that day. His name is David Carmichael and he wrote:

“I took the life of my 11-year-old son Ian on July 31, 2004 in a Paxil-induced state of psychosis and was charged with first degree murder. I was judged to be “not criminally responsible on account of a mental disorder” in September 2005 and received an absolute discharge from the forensic psychiatric system (in Ontario, Canada) in December 2009. I’ve been off all prescription drugs since September 2010. Prior to our family tragedy, I was a physical active sports consultant with no history of violence or mental illness.”

He told an audience of clinicians and patients, that day, about how it is that a normal citizen, prescribed a seemingly safe medication for work-related stress, goes on to commit a heinous act of violence against his beloved child. This academic classroom was heaving with grief when he finished his description of events.

This must be rare, right? Totally anomalous?

Wrong.

It has become my contention that the Russian Roulette that is played with each new prescription of psychotropic medication violates the physician’s most primal tenet – first do no harm – and does so in the absence of anything approximating informed consent.

Violence as a Side Effect?

Thankfully, we are often given multiple chances to wake up to a greater truth. It’s becoming easier than ever. With grassroots platforms like madinamerica.com, the information is out there, when you are ready to look beyond main stream media to what the real victims are claiming.

The truth about antidepressants and violence is also in the most recently published literature, including a critical review, hot off the press, by Carvalho et al where the authors dive into the research on the supposed safety of SSRIs and SNRIs. In this document, they present an evidence-based horror menagerie of ways in which a simple antidepressant can derail your life if it doesn’t take it. Leaving patients with new medical diagnoses, antidepressants prescribed often for difficult transitions in life like divorces and deaths, carry documented risks that your doctor cannot possibly tell you about because if they knew of them, they would put down their prescription pad immediately.

Let’s take a tour. Neatly summarized here, the adverse effects of antidepressants can sound like that droning voice in TV ads that we are inured to because we have been told these “side effects are rare, and outweighed by the benefits.”

But the benefits are shockingly limited so, let’s take a closer look at those side effects…

The Risks That Made Me Quit Prescribing

Having always represented antidepressants as safe and effective to my patients, I put down my prescription pad after learning 3 facts about psychiatric medications:

  • They result in worse long-term outcomes [1]
  • They are debilitatingly habit forming [2][3] [4]
  • They cause unpredictable violence [5][6]

These insights were apparently just the tip of the iceberg. Several years into the horror stories of patient experiences and new relationships with grassroots activists, I am left wondering. What on earth are these meds? How could biochemistry have ever manifested molecules capable of derailing, distorting, and suppressing the human experience to this extent?

With more unknowns than knowns at this point, the signal of harm is growing and patient alignment with this model of care, diminishing.

I pulled some choice phrases from the paper for your further enlightenment below but suffice it to say that many of these side effects are major gamechanging problems if not life-ending tragedies that render the placebo-level performance of these medications totally unacceptable.

Gut disturbance:

“Some of the most frequently reported side effects associated with the use of SSRIs and serotonin noradrenaline reuptake inhibitors (SNRIs) include nausea, diarrhea, dyspepsia, GI bleeding and abdominal pain.”

Liver toxicity:

“Two main mechanisms may be involved in antidepressant- induced liver toxicity, namely a metabolic component and/or an immuno-allergic pathway. A hypersensitivity syndrome with fever and rash as clinical manifestations, as well as with autoantibodies and eosinophilia, and a short latency period (1–6 weeks) point to a predominantly immunoallergic pathophysiological mechanism, whereas a lack of hypersensitivity syndrome and a longer latency period (i.e. 1 month to 1 year) points to an idiosyncratic metabolic mechanism.”

Weight gain:

“Notwithstanding the complexity of the clinical scenario, compelling evidence indicates that the use of most antidepressants may increase weight in a significant proportion of patients.”

Heart problems:

“SSRIs and SNRIs may promote a decrement in heart rate variability (HRV). Although the impact of the effects of antidepressants on HRV remains to be established, data indicate that a lower HRV is a significant predictor of incident cardiovascular events.”

Urinary problems:

“SSRIs can cause urinary retention by acting on central micturition pathways. Serotonin may increase the central sympathetic outflow leading to urinary storage, and at the same time inhibits parasympathetic flow, which affects voiding.”

Sexual dysfunction:

“…a significant body of data shows that antidepressants may differentially affect sexual function in multiple aspects, leading to reductions in libido, arousal dysfunction (erection in males and vaginal lubrication in females) and orgasmic dysfunctions.”

Salt imbalance:

“The mechanisms of SSRI-induced hyponatremia remain incompletely elucidated, but these agents can act by either increasing the release of antidiuretic hormone (ADH) or increasing the sensitivity to ADH resulting in a clinical picture similar to the syndrome of inappropriate secretion of ADH.”

Osteoporosis/Bone weakening:

“The use of SSRIs has been associated with a reduction in bone mineral density (BMD) and a consistent higher risk of fractures.”

Bleeding:

“All serotonergic antidepressants have been associated with an increased risk of bleeding. The most likely mechanism responsible for these adverse reactions is a reduction of serotonin reuptake by platelets, although other mechanisms have also been implicated.”

Nervous system dysfunction:

“All kinds of EPS [extrapyramidal symptoms] are seen in patients taking antidepressants, but akathisia appears to be the most common presentation followed by dystonic reactions, parkinsonian movements and tardive dyskinesia…Headache was one of the most common side effects associated with the use of antidepressants in a large retrospective cohort of adolescents and adults.”

Sweating:

“Most studies indicate that approximately 10% of patients on SSRIs may develop excessive sweating, although the incidence may be higher for paroxetine.”

Sleep disturbances:

“The SSRIs and venlafaxine are associated with increased REM sleep latency and a reduction in the overall time spent in the REM phase while sleeping.”

Mood changes:

“Many patients taking SSRIs have reported experiencing emotional blunting. They often describe their emotions as being ‘damped down’ or ‘toned down’, while some patients refer to a feeling of being in ‘limbo’ and just ‘not caring’ about issues that were significant to them before…Furthermore, an activation syndrome in which patients taking antidepressants may experience anxiety, agitation, panic attacks, insomnia, irritability, hostility, aggressiveness and impulsivity in the first 3 months of treatment may ensue.”

Suicidality:

“The incidence of suicide and attempted suicide has been a frequently underreported adverse outcome across antidepressant RCTs.”

Overdose toxicity:

“Patients with MDD are at increased risk of suicide and overdosing of prescribed medications is a common method used to attempted suicide.”

Withdrawal Syndrome:

“These symptoms include flu-like symptoms, tremors, tachycardia, shock-like sensations, paresthesia, myalgia, tinnitus, neuralgia, ataxia, vertigo, sexual dysfunction, sleep disturbances, vivid dreams, nausea vomiting, diarrhea, worsening anxiety and mood Instability.”

Eye disease:

“A subset of patients taking SSRIs reports nonspecific visual disturbances…SSRIs may increase intraocular pressure and lead to the emergence of angle-closure glaucoma…A nested case-control study found a higher likelihood of cataracts after exposure to newer generation antidepressants.”

Hormonal imbalance:

“Long-standing increases in peripheral prolactin levels are occasionally observed in patients using ADs, including SSRIs [208] ; hyperprolactinemia may have deleterious health consequences (e.g. a decrease in BMD [bone mineral density] and hypogonadism).”

Pregnancy/Breastfeeding risk:

“Most of the data describing the presence of birth defects associated with SSRI use have been based on observational studies and drug registries. Therefore, the clinical significance of these data is questionable.”

Cancer risk:

“Preclinical studies have found that antidepressants can increase the growth of fibrosarcomas and melanomas, and may also promote mammary carcinogenesis.”

Whew! Now that’s depressing. And why don’t you know about these? Because your doctor doesn’t. I recently learned of a patient who was prescribed an antidepressant simultaneous to an antibiotic “just in case the antibiotic caused depression or mood changes”. We are trained to treat these medications as a “why not” application of pharmacology, and the truth is that, as the authors state:

the history of toxicology reminds us vividly of the lag that often occurs between the first approval of a drug for use in humans and the recognition of certain adverse events from that drug.”

Taking these risks seems all the more unnecessary with the robust outcomes of lifestyle medicine – multimodal, multi-tier interventions that are low cost, immediately available, and side effect free. As the authors conclude:

The findings of this review suggest that long-term treatment with new generation ADs should be avoided if alternative treatments are available.”

I would have to agree and affirm that these “alternative” treatments are indeed available. These treatments offer not only resolution of symptoms and elimination/avoidance of meds, but an entirely new experience of self. This is not about getting “back to normal,” it’s about integration, evolution, and vitality. I’ve been working for several years to make self-healing toolkits available to everyone considering an antidepressant or looking to come off of one for less than the price of one doctor visit. Check it out!

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[1] http://www.power2u.org/downloads/AnatomyofanEpidemic-SummaryofFindings-Whitaker.pdf
[2] https://www.karger.com/Article/FullText/371865
[3] https://www.madinamerica.com/psychiatric-drug-withdrawal/#/home/
[4] http://kellybroganmd.com/stop-madness-coming-psych-meds/
[5] http://kellybroganmd.com/homicide-and-the-ssri-alibi/

First published on MadinAmerica on November 6, 2016: https://www.madinamerica.com/2016/11/whats-harm-taking-antidepressant/

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SCIENCE CONFIRMS THAT PEOPLE ABSORB ENERGY FROM OTHERS

Spiritism

OCTOBER 10, 2016  by DAVID VANALLEN

 

Have you ever felt like being depleted of energy when with a person? A bad vibe often surrounds this experience.

According to science, everything is energy and humans are no exception to this rule. In other words, people are also subject to energy transformations.

The University of Bielefeld, Germany carried out research showing that plants can absorb energy from other plants. The study, led by the German biologist Olaf Kruse, examined energy behavior in algae, particularly in Chlamydomonas reinhardtii. The results, published on Naturesite.com, revealed that this plant has another source of energy in addition to photosynthesis – energy absorbed from other algae.

The science that studies energy behavior in living things is called bioenergetics.

According to Olivia Bader-Lee, a physician and therapist, who followed the results of this investigation, our bodies behave like sponges, absorbing energy that surrounds us. “This is exactly why there are people who feel uncomfortable when they are in a certain group with a mixture of energy and emotions.

She explains, “The human body is very similar to a plant that sucks, absorbs the energy needed to feed your emotional state, and can energize the cells and increase the amount of cortisol and catabolize, feed the cells depending on the emotional need.”

This is a major reason why people are subject to mood swings making them feel nervous, stressed, angry, anxious, sad, but also happy, optimistic and amused.

As reported by Bader-Lee, man has lost this important connection with nature over the centuries. She also believes that this exchange of energy could be extremely beneficial for humanity in general.

Taken that a spirit is also energy, paranormal phenomena are nothing but expressions of different energies.

Despite the fact that every ancient nation was well aware of this phenomenon, science has somehow chosen to ignore the issue. There are barely a handful of scientists at present who can tackle this issue, with the majority of their fellow colleagues still ignoring it for fear of criticism and rejection by the scientific community.

Via peacefulcentury.net re-published on

http://reflectionofmind.org/science-confirms-people-absorb-energy-others/

  • Many people who are gifted with psychic abilities are extremely sensitive to others energies. I am often asked the question, “How can a person continue to be sensitive but not pick up others’ energies? It’s exhausting and sometimes a real downer!” Jill Leigh, Director and lead teacher at Energy Healing Institute gives a dynamite course on “Embodiment and Grounding in Spiritual Emergence” which gives practical tools to calibrate your energy field so you are not overly influenced by others’ energies. More info on http://university.imhu.org/courses/69/about

 

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Our Fear of Psychic Phenomena

I just returned from a fantastic conference: the 2nd International Medical Spiritist Congress, “The Dawn of a New Era in Medicine”, October 1-2, 2016, at George Washington University in Washington, DC.  The roster of speakers was world class–almost all of them were MDs and PhDs with superb presentations.  The event hall was modern, comfortable and centrally located in a highly regarded university auditorium.  The weather was perfect–early Fall with bright blue skies.  The conference was an extraordinarily well-organized, professional acknowledgement of the importance that spirituality plays in  health and longevity…but the event was not well attended.  I wondered, “why?”

One of the speakers, a prolific, published author and researcher, Etzel Cardena, PhD, spoke about “The New Psychology of Anomalous Extraordinary Experiences”.  He cited statistics on how many people all over the world are having these non-ordinary states of consciousness (NOSC)–as the psychiatrist, Stanislav Grof, calls them.  Cardena explained that 8-15% of people are having experiences that conventional psychiatry would classify as hallucinations (eg hearing voices, seeing things that others don’t perceive), and that these inner experiences can be very beneficial.  They can expand a person’s self-awareness, enhance connection to other human beings, the natural world, and spiritual dimensions,  and generate energy and enthusiasm for life.  Curiously, he said, hallucinations only occur to .3-.7% of those who have been diagnosed with schizophrenia.

Maybe the term “hallucinations” should not be used so freely to explore non-ordinary experiences as we immediately associate that word with something that is not real.  Instead, Cardena’s term, anomalous experience (AE) is preferable.  Rather than suggest something “abnormal” like a symptom of mental illness–it suggests something out of the ordinary with great positive potential.  Amazing to think that 8-15% of people of all ages and socio-economic conditions are having these experiences that conventional psychiatry would term hallucinations and thus dub psychotic!  Think of it: A person who is hypnotized who has an inner experience of a past life experience which dissolves a long-term phobia, a meditator in an intensive retreat who feels overcome with bliss in feeling one with the Creator and all life, aka Cosmic Consciousness, a child under 6 years old who can talk about the family she had in a most recent past life, a medical intuitive who can diagnose a patient at a distance and be fully accurate in labeling an illness without ever seeing or talking to the patient or his family and healthcare providers.  These are experiences that expand our knowledge of human potential and benefit the person having them–they are not indicators of psychosis.

Cardena has being doing his best to forward the knowledge of anomalous experiences but has run into obstruction when it comes to other scientists accepting his research and publication.  I want to recommend your reading an article he wrote, published in 2015 (see below) to see into the fear of anomalous experiences that is so prevalent in our world.  Why is this important?  A statement made at the conference: “It will be mystical experience and the empathy for each other which it generates that saves us from planetary suicide.”  If so, we must stop crushing our exploration  of anomalous experiences and non-ordinary states of consciousness.  We must withdraw our fear and fully empower those brilliant souls who are bringing us closer to the territory we need to enter.  It’s time the conference on spirituality and health be full to overflowing with students, healthcare providers and the general public so we can move to higher ground in our own wellbeing and collectively, together, with the planet.

The Unbearable Fear of Psi:  On Scientific Suppression in the 21st Century

Author, ETZEL CARDEÑA, PhD

was published online December 15, 2015 in the Journal of Scientific Exploration, Vol. 29, No. 4, pp. 601–620, 2015, 0892-3310/15

Free Download: http://www.academia.edu/19814867/The_Unbearable_Fear_of_Psi_On_Scientific_Suppression_in_the_21st_Century

The paper describes various examples of blatant attempts to

suppress and censor parapsychology research and those who are doing it.

The examples include raising false accusations, barring access to journals,

suppressing papers and data, and ostracizing and persecuting scientists interested

in the topic. The intensity of fear and vituperation caused by parapsychology

research is disproportionate even to the possibility that the psi

hypothesis could be completely wrong, so I speculate on the psychological

reasons that may give rise to it. There are very few circumstances in which

censorship might be appropriate, and the actions by parapsychology censors

put them at odds not only with the history of science but with the history

of modern liberal societies. Appendix 1 is an Editorial censored by the

then-editors of the Journal Frontiers in Human Neuroscience.

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