1. John Brady says:

    Interesting topic that I can relate to. I’d theorize it has something to do with an unwillingness to feel anger.

    People who are on a spiritual path, those commonly practicing meditation, may be dismissing their own anger. They may experience it but don’t want to feel it and even deny that they have anger. I’ve met people like this and I’ve also done it myself. “Denying one’s dark side or shadow self,” is another way of putting it.

    I find that even when you know what the shadow is, and do “shadow work,” it’s surprisingly easy to avoid your shadow. I want to be a spiritual person, all love and light, right? Wait… I remember, I’m living in a dualistic world, by choice. “You got to feel it to heal it,” as they say. For many, it’s easier said than done and I admit, I struggle as well.

    In contrast, I notice some people get angry, they take action and the anger passes through them quickly. They may take a negative action in the heat of the moment, but they don’t ruminate about the situation because their action moves the anger through them. They might find themselves on a spiritual path without actually “choosing it,” if that makes sense. They are generally not introspective people, unlike those who might choose a more spiritual path.

    If you’re human, you experience anger. I think we’re often taught since childhood that anger will cause us trouble and some personalities will choose not to feel it—dismissing or disowning it. More introspective people on a spiritual path, might feel guilt about the thoughts that anger brings. Unwillingness to experience and feel it, just means the energy won’t complete its cycle and will remain in the body and later activate the mind with negative thinking. These patterns can even be subconscious and I can see how meditation would bring the residing energy up.

    I’ve also heard people who lift weights and do other forms of rigorous exercise say they find strenuous activity to be a good outlet for anger. Yoga or martial arts could be good because these engage the body and mind. I remember Thich Nhat Hanh does a good anger meditation that can be searched for. Personally, I find that writing a negative comment or review expressing anger can actually be therapeutic.

    All these activities involve a willingness to accept ones self in a wholistic sense while living a dualistic experience. Uncomfortable emotions such as anger and experiencing the thoughts that anger brings without identifying with or judging, can be a huge challenge—but experiencing this is part of being human!

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